February 22, 2012

Internet Concerns and Parenting Today

Any parent of a teen or even a pre-teen child today knows the pressure is on to keep their child safe, even as they begin to venture into the big wide world.

In earlier eras, parents had to worry about the influences of television and the evils of rock ‘n roll.  In even earlier times, parents worried about their children rolling their own cigarettes and spending time with ‘bad companions.”

Today, parents have whole other levels of concern, even as their children can enjoy the advantages of living in a more open and sophisticated society.  Families today can speak openly of certain realities, like concerns about the changes of puberty and the need for birth control. These conversations were once unthinkable in some families.

Yet with all this openness can come concern over a lack of control about what children are exposed to socially. The Internet, which is so new and so pervasive today, has quickly become a major social influence in education and family life.  It’s all happened before we’ve had a chance to think about the ramifications of it all – and it’s happened without our permission.

The power of instant communication with the Internet and all the social media it involves–including Facebook, Myspace, Youtube and more—can make some parents feel they are losing their power and influence over their children.

What can parents do to gain back their control?  Stay involved in what their children are doing and seeing. It’s age-old advice, but today it’s more important than ever that parents know what kind of information their children are getting off the Internet.  If too much is coming in—parents must know when it’s time to turn the cell phones and the computer off—and talk to their kids.

 

 

 

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Teens, Trends and Elvis Presley

Pop culture trends evolve constantly. As soon as you think you’ve gotten a handle on the latest looks for teens or the latest lingo or the latest dance groove or music trend, you’ll find just as quickly that what you thought was “in” has simply become ‘so five minutes ago.’ Or whatever the term for something “old hat’ is these days.  It’s enough to make any 35-year old feel absolutely ancient!

The idea of a “generation gap,” however, is relatively new, as is the concept of the teenage years as a distinct part of life. At the turn of the last century, in 1900, the concept of the “teen years” barely existed, as young people at that time were quickly absorbed into young adult roles in work or family situations once childhood had passed.

The most significant trend in establishing the teen years as a life passage in itself was the development of high schoo

Elvis Presley Face Jug #4

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ls between 1910 and 1930.  During this time teenagers began attending high school in increasingly larger numbers.  That was a movement that did much to establish teenagers as a social entity

separate from adults.

Before too long, businesses noticed that working teens had money to spend and that their tastes differed from those of their parents. The acknowledgement of teens as a consumer group became more pronounced after World War II, and accelerated in the 1950s, as the society began to respond more energetically to emerging teenage tastes in films and music, fuelling the careers of major teen stars like Elvis Presley and then the Beatles.

Sure, that was then and this is now. If you can’t tell the difference today between rap and hip-hop and techno-pop. relax. Just remember teenagers are now an entity and a universe unto themselves, one we’re not really expected to understand or be a part of. Maybe that’s the good part of getting old….!

 

 

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